What would make a teenager have more motivation in their life?
…when I say motivation, I mean, having some drive in their life to do things such as wanting to do well in school, taking interest in personal hobbies, wanting to get off the couch and get some exercise, etc…am trying to figure out how to encourage my 16 year old in this department?!
Kids are like horses — sometimes you need to give ‘em a jolly good kick in the ribs to get ‘em jumpin’ =)
Metaphorically speaking, of course …
for school (this is goona sound bad but if he gets good grades give him money or some kind of reward. for the hobbies give him a guitar or a pro skateboard. (or something like that.) just stuff like that should do it.
bribery
well the way I am motivated is right now because I have to get very good grades in order to see my friend in a few days. So I am like working at 100′s and 90′s at the moment. But that’s me, find something your daughter really loves and try to use it to do something of what I am doing now.
I have heard that teenagers don’t get enough sleep. Truly, they need more sleep than they usually get. Also, check their diet. Does it include the healthy food needed to fuel their engine? The third thing I would do is practice some active listening. It is a confusing time of life and they could use a person to listen more and talk less. Positive reinforcement is your best friend. Find them doing good things and give them their credit. The family could find time to do activities together, not force them to go but let them have a say in what everyone does. Hope something here helps.
im 17 and last year i hated school because i didnt chose my subjects very well but laer i got involved with the duke of edinburgh award and tha deffinetly made me more motivated
to get motivated you just need to be happy with whats going on in your life, if u cant be bothered then uv probably not got something u relaly want to do, i really want to do art and that keeps me busy alot so just encourage them to go after wha they want, just try not to nag, my mum did that and it completly made me lose all motivation….
we need to find our own way, ur 16 year old will figure it out, they just need support and space
Give him a year or so.
I’ve noticed that teens that are about 15-16 years old go through this phase where they’re mad at the world and totally depressed.
It seems to be a stage that lasts about a year and a half, then they come out of it.
You might be beating your head against the wall trying to "cure" him of this before he’s ready.
Well, some recommend bribery, as it can prove effective in for short term, but not in the long run. Here are some other options you might want to consider:
1. Simply demanding your child to do one thing or another, though that more often than not just gets the job done rather than giving them motivation.
2. Telling them something to catch their attention and mind, such as the fact that they only get to live life once and they might as well live it best, by doing your best in all fields. Tell them about the many benefits of being motivated to do something. Don’t nag them, just bring it up and let them know.
3. Here’s something you may not have considered. SUCCESS is sometimes the greatest motivation. It can be hard to reach it without much motivation, but if your child accomplishes something successfully they will feel much better about themselves and will likely seek out more success.
The thing is that you can’t really make them do anything. It is their choice whether they want to or not, and if they don’t, there is no way to MAKE them be motivated. Sometimes, you can give them a little nudge in the right direction, though. It may help to be positive and to tell your child about all the positive things about them to give them a nudge of confidence that may make them seek more praise.
The thing is that you need to make them snap out of it and realize that they have to take stuff a little more seriously and try to do their best or they will never reach any of the success that they could have been destined for. Good luck with that.
I hope I helped.